Timewise

In reference to time how long is too long?

Is it a lifetime? Is it seven years? is it even a second? Of course, it depends entirely upon the subject. Take Love for example in truth you can never spend too long in Love. If both parties are loyal, humble, faithful, passionate...in Love, it may as well last for ever. Just to completely wrap this example up...
Point 1: 1 John 4:8 God is Love
Point 2: Jeremiah 10:10 God is the eternal King
So...Love is eternal so has no time limit.

However; when we are talking about something smaller, something like contemplation, "how long is too long?". If you experience a major incident, you are going to think about it for a while. It may have shocked you, or helped you, but it will keep popping up in your head for a while. But you can't let it get in the way of the rest of your LIFE! Sure things happen, but that is life itself. And you are alive after all, so put on a brave face and walk outside. Think about the future for once, of what could be. Remember what it felt like as a child and stretch to your goals.

Growing up was only ever created to be a physical progression, it shouldn't make you forget about LIVING YOUR LIFE! So in answer to the question of contemplation; any amount of time that stops you living is too long...remember that.

Poet

My poetry is going quite well. To date I have written sixteen poems. Most of them are very good [but i would say that] and a few of them are well 'artistic' [but again i would say that if I meant bad] or as it would be called in one of those hip London bars 'modern' or 'sophisticated' but I don't buy any of that post-impressionistic crap.

It's either good or it's not. Together they are known as 'Perspectives' and are being drafted in a poetry book or anthology i imagine...by me. So look out world for the poetry of nonohino!

As i describe it, poetry is the amalgamation of several unrelated ideas into one creation in a singular moment of true inspiration when the pen touches the paper. And the only thing relating these ideas in an underpinning idea which can relate the entire universe, if the reader is apt enough to understand.

Songs of the forest of men

I feel inclined to inform you of a recent development in my life. I have become a poet. Yet who can say if it is just a passing phase, or something i am committed to.

I find myself writing poems about things i have not quite experienced, but I know they are there. There was once a time when i was not inclined to poetry, though we did tend to do a lot of it is school. I think that perhaps my horizons have grown and i am expressing myself in different ways. However it could just be a deep seated yearning to return to those days when life felt the same, but now i look back it was different.

Your potential is unlimited, if you wish to apply yourself. Success is not how much money you have from a job, but how happy your job makes you, and then how that happiness makes other peoples lives better

Sidestepping the Point?

Can a man become a better man? Yes if he accepts himself completely. if he understands every defect in himself and how to make it better, like a mechanic knows which part of your car engine need a bit of repair. But how do we come to see these defects?
Like all things on this Earth it takes time (i may talk about why this is later on). Time to understand one's own abilities and areas of expertise. But you cannot simply look at your life from this independent place and vow to change this bit first then that bit next. If you do that you will most certainly ignore or even forget your better qualities or areas where you need work. As you are so set on 'being more patient' or 'being more charitable' you will forget 'offensive words that slip out' or 'showing that one person more love' because (and I knew it sounds unusual) you are being selfish.
You are spending all this time and effort trying to make yourself a better person when actually the people in your life need some of that time and effort too. So what can you do? Accept your bad points. Know your good points. Try to develop all your points together, not individually. While balancing all these delicate things inside you, see what your friends need and try to do bits for them. Understand what makes you angry/upset/not 100% and stop. Do things that make you feel good, that bring understanding to your life. Smile.
See becoming a better person is not something you should learn how to do. It is something you should always understand how to do, but also something that should happen naturally. And if you find yourself struggling to change, then your looking in the wrong direction.

Relational Advancement

You know if you want to get to know someone, texting, instant messaging and even video calling is good, but you never get the whole story. If you want to know someone really closely, you have to spend time with them. So you can see how they react, but also so they understand how you react in certain situations it's a two way thing.
The best thing i can recommend if you are feeling down is to be with people who can understand how you are feeling, but also engage with you on a level that you are comfortable with. Yes it's good to spend time alone, but too much of that and your thoughts will wander into areas you may not really understand.
Being with people can help keep you in check, even if your mood is bad. You just let them know how your feeling and try to be civil and responsive. So maybe civil isn't a word you've heard for a few years, but i believe it's still relevant in today's society. In once definition it means to keep to the normals of polite social relations. Not necessarily sincere but at least responsive.
Back to the main point. relationships are pivotal in our day to day lives. They help us grow in so many ways and understand so many things. Without them we become estranged and lost. But don't let things drift about in friendship. You must let them know you are friends and your life actions must back up that statement. I'm not talking about entering a dating relationship, but rather showing all your friends that they do actually mean more to you than just someone to talk to. So spend time with them, talk about life and the future and help them as best you can. Otherwise, you will be a bored, disillusioned old man/woman for the rest of your life.

Love, Emotions and Life

Why does life never go the way we want it to? In my life that is one of the most relevant questions i have ever heard. Sometimes i feel like complete rubbish because i feel there is no one there.
A feeling of deep sadness or loss sometimes engulfs me. I wonder at life and try to show people how i feel, who i really am; but selfish emotions lead nowhere. So what can we do?
a few hard ideas here. Stop thinking about yourself, damn, if it was just that easy. But really if you spend more time helping others your own wants will die away. Remember in life it's not what we want that matters its what we need.
Remember that there will always be people who love you. You can talk to people you trust if you go about in the right attitude, don't be self centered just explain it as a life consuming problem.
Try to do things that engage your time well and make you feel good inside and out. Its a cliche answer but helping others works. Also you could try changing the world/or just your lifestyle.
Now, lets get to a more direct issue. Is there a someone who makes you feel joyous one day and hopeless the next? Emotions are a two-edged sword; used with skill it can be precise, used without it can be lethal. I won't give you people any advice i wouldn't try myself, but get to know them. Get to know the person you like (or think you like). I know it sounds strange but it will save a lot of time later on. Most times you just like them for their looks, but personality is just as important. You may find out their going in a completely different direction to you and on that you don't want to ruin a good friendship.
Spend time with them, if they want to. Don't create any uncomfortable moments that you both may regret. Show them that you care about them. A lot of people don't make the effort, but it's worth it, after all they're going to want to talk to someone who wants to know.
A good strong relationship takes time. A lifelong marriage was never built overnight so move forward together at a rate you are both comfortable with. And talk about it. Talk about where your relationship is going. Talk about how you are feeling, help each other and understand one another. Conversation can build so many bridges and open so many doors and create so many more cheesy metaphors, talk and share your love show your feelings, support each other and there is one more thing.
God. Creator of all, friend to all. Father and provider. If you put God at the center of all you do you cannot go wrong. Let God help and guide you in daily life and ask him about the major decisions in your life. God wants to know how you are doing and how he can help.

God wants to know you so listen to THIS.

Have we ever had innocence?

It is childish to think that every person sees life in the same way. Here's an example. If we all saw the world exactly the same, we would be ruled over by one Global Government, and we would all freely take part in the party.
Fortunately, we are all much different and can see the world in our own ways. But this causes problems. This can cause cross purposes and in our minds people are insulting us when in fact they are complementing. Fortunately, this is where patience is key. We can spend time asking them what they meant and understanding their point of view. Thus we can develop together and help others see the different points of view.
Harmonisation. Not only in society with our friends and people, but inside us also. If we are all mangled up inside where our beliefs are constantly clashing with our lifestyle then we will act differently towards each other. A bad man cannot be made good by society, only by changing the fundamental morals on which he acts. If you see no link between these two truths (harmonisation and morals) then go, see how people with twisted morals react towards others and how their behaviour limits their uses. Then you may be able to understand that we need to be in harmony, as a united World. So that we can take the last few steps into the unknown together.

Getting to know everyone

You want to talk to people? You want to get to know your community? You have to take the first steps. Simple steps in theory but they need a lot of hard work both mental and physical put into them. People wont talk to you if you present a bad image to them, they may feel threatened or just that you don't appreciate them.
So here's how to get started. One key principle to presenting a good image is to be positive. In day to day life be light hearted, don't let small things get you don't. But don't try to appear perfect, if you show to your friends you have problems and you need to talk then they will see you on their level. They will feel more comfortable around you and when people are relaxed they often talk more sense.
Then people will come to you when they have problems and you can help each others. This is a good way to make the tedious parts of life seem easier, helping you to enjoy life to it's full.

A small note

Good day readers. I am sorry that the last few posts have been late. I've been on holiday see with no internet at all. So i had to draft them out to type up later. Remember you can e-mail any ideas, complaints or compliments to nonohino@hotmail.co.uk and i shall try my best to comply. Holidays are good they let us escape from the normality of life for a while. They let us go see parts of the world we couldn't before. Also you have an excuse to wear shorts and spend money.

Love and effect

I was once (a very long time ago) called a Mr. Love Guru (thank you Luke from Wired for War). Which is odd considering i have next to no experience on the topic. It got me thinking how does someone with no experience get opinions in that particular topic? I guess it's just our exposure to daily life. Talking with people gives us knowledge, hope, aspirations and goals. And I set myself a goal to understand the power of love, what did I find...
I found a place where true love knows no limits and has no boundaries. Where every child, every woman and man no matter what age were held in equal with each other. I found a place where you don't have to cry yourself to sleep every night; because the people love you. I found a place of peace. But when you try to force love, when you try to control or ignore love (even unintentionally) it leads to a different place; a place of regret, of self-pity, a place where you waste away your life thinking of what could have been. That place is not somewhere i want to go. So what does it take:

Attention; in each other and their needs
Comfort; around each other and to provide it when needed
Trust; in each other to do the right things
Knowledge; of each other. Without knowing your partner a relationship cannot last
Understanding; of each others goals and what they need from life
Mutal interests; to share passtimes and hobbies helps bonding
Love; in each other

Without any of these things for your partner, or yourself, love cannot flourish. But the hardship is worth it, and in the end it is easier doing than it sounds.

Those Who Remember

Where would i be if it wasn't for my friends? I wouldn't be doing this that's for sure. I firmly believe that the life I've lived with my friends has made me so much more of a real person. I'm bolder, I've become more random and crazy, and i find life is full of so many good unexpected things. So here's to the guys and girls who have helped me become myself. Lets hope it lasts another eighty years!

One for the team

It seems that after thirty odd posts I'm starting to get tired of the sound of my own thoughts. So if you would like me to blog about a particular issue or idea (no matter how controversial) i will. I have set up a special e-mail address devoted just to this, so send your ideas to nonohino@hotmail.co.uk amd i'll try my best to comply.

nonohino

The Great Journey

I long ago came to terms with this: I am on the Great Journey of life. And as long as I try my best as what tasks are put before me, I shall travel the path I was meant to travel. Even if it takes me through times of darkness; for in the darkness the light shines brighter and holds more value. I will be unshakable in where I am standing, for this is life. And life is to be lived. And to live life requires making leaps of faith in directions that may not have been considered. But leap and see the good effects it has on people.

Nostalgic Moments

Don't we just love to look back over our lives? In a society where thousands of pictures are taken every hour, where home movies are on the rise; it's really easy to look back over good times in our lives. And it's important to remember that family love, and the friendships we experience each day. What isn't alright, is dreaming away years of your life where you are in the past, in those 'glorious' days. When life seemed so easy, and nothing went wrong. For that won't make you new friends and it won't develop your life. However, going out there, in the streets, in your local town and spending time with friends/family will. You will make new acquaintances and you will develop in new exciting areas as a person. It will take time, and for sure it will be a difficult task on occasion. But at the end of the hard times, you can look around and see a brighter world, and life will be alive and worth living. You will have gained new skills with people. But it takes those first steps, and in some areas they will be the hardest steps of your life. At times it may seem like a fruitless venture, but if you keep up the determination, the belief, and the faith that you can change...you will. And you will be happier for the difference.

More Than

The fact of the matter is if we don't learn to live and work together, be friends, stay in touch and learn to teach and support each other; we can never move on in life. And Life IS to be enjoyed. Don't wake up with a frown and think how crappy the day will be, because 9 times out of 10 it will be if you have a negative attitude. Instead realise just what you could do today. Explore a range of possibilities and try something different every now and again.

Forever Hold Your Peace

Life can sometimes feel like fishing. If you don't concentrate really hard on particular object, you get distracted and miss the catch. But life was created for us to step back and look at a slightly bigger picture. Sure we'll never be able to look at the whole picture, but all we have to do is realise it's there. Then we can see life as, well as life. But you know what, waking up each day to another day of life gets me all excited about living. And i wouldn't want to feel any different. Because even if i do miss the catch, I'm going to look ahead and plan and prepare for the next.

Sharing that Burden

Selflessness. A very hard thing to be all your life. To think only of how other are doing. But in a society where you are the only selfless individual, well it's suicide. I f you and only you spend all day thinking about others, then your forgetting someone. Yourself. In a society like that it can't work. But if everyone is selfless, if everyone thinks only about others and how they are doing, then you have multiple people watching your back. You have a grand sense of security, that can't be taken away. That is a world i aspire to live in. That is my perfect society. Where peoples troubles are shared, and solutions found. Where you don't have to be suspicious because you know the people are with you. Isn't it amazing?

Meaning comes from the past

Life is hard. Even when things seem to be going your way, you still have to work for them. Don’t you see that life isn’t against you? It’s against everyone. So try harder, work better, and be the light in your work place, in your family, in your social group. And let them see what it is in you that makes the difference. You have friendships that aren’t going anywhere. Is it lack of trust, or just lack of contact. Trust, friendship and eventually love, takes long years to form properly. If you try to speed them up, you’ll destroy a delicate thing. But once it has been forged for good it is virtually unbreakable. So have the patience and wait, rushing about does no-one any good. The end lies in the beginning, but from a different perspective.

The Heart of The Matter

Be bold, in your decisions. Be loyal, in your choices. And forever hold your peace.
Stick with people through the thick and thin, through the bad and good times. For they will notice your dedication, and they will stick with you. Help when you can. Stand up against injustice, give your extra to the needy and don't collect items you already own.
When you are in need, tell someone, don't refuse help and support for the sake of appearing strong and independent. Use your time wisely and consider all things. Keep an open mind, but don't be persuaded too easily. Stick to your opinions, your values, your morals, and only add things that are in line with those. Don't be a hypocrite and keep yourself in plain view. Don't tangle yourself in a web of your own lies, for you will only suffocate. Spend part of your life exploring the reality and the world around you, then as you come to understand, start to explore the rest of your life, greet everyday and think things through, then you will be at peace. Look beyond life, to eternity, and marvel at it's glory.

The Time It Takes

Yes. You'd be surprised, everything takes time. Even if it's that 30 seconds while your "lunch" cooks in the microwave. Being impatient humans, we want most things straight away, but usualy this is not so good for us. Wether it's a relationship, or infact just waiting for a new film to come out, that extra time spent waiting is usualy what keeps us interested, and leads to a sucess. Now why is this? Honestly I do know, maybe it's the same principle as what makes the most aged wine taste the richest, who knows. All I can say is that in this world, where speed is essential, and waiting still exists. Stop. Take a breath in life and see the world around you and get involved in it. You'll find life so much easier. Andm aybe you'll discover love of some kind, who knows? Thats life! Get living it!