*Sorry this post is so late by the way. I'm finding it hard to write down ideas at the moment*
Have you ever mistook something for something else? A friendship for love, a statement for an insult; the list goes on. I have. And it can come as quite a shock when you realise your view of the situation is wrong. It takes time for things to heal over, because as people we want to take a step back and think about the relations with the people involved. The only way to sort a situation out is to sit down and speak. Speak the truth, but also search for a resolution where either; both parties come away unharmed and again friends, or a situation where both parties gain knowledge and understanding as well as the other things stated above.
The latter is the hardest. For to learn requires being taught, and unless you can cast away all emotion and learn alone it is normally the other person who must teach you. And of course you must teach them. And here arises a very diverse problem, 'how can you learn from the person who you are confronting?' You must think like them. And i stress here that you only think, you do not act, you do not become them; you merely think like them. So you can understand the situation they are in with you. Thus you can together work toward a resolution. It may not be pretty and it will take time. But showing compassion, by understand them can gain you a friend along the way.
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