Few and Far Between

If you are trapped between two situations you cannot see them both at the same time. You can know they both exist as problems, but you never deal with them in the same observation.

This is where the role of the onlooker becomes pivotal. One who has nothing at stake and can observe unbiased from a distance. Such a person can see both problems and you in a sort of metaphysical line. But the distance of the onlooker can often allow the motivational forces behind each situation to reveal themselves [due mainly to their fixed pattern nature*].

Although this same distance can occasionally result in the onlooker drawing stereotypes on the situations; which can be dangerous for you the subject of both situations. This form of 'inconvenience' can only be removed by a professional observer, which takes time and dedication.

But thinking on a positive note: can we not all, to some degree, be onlookers for each other?

*Fueled usually be emotions in other people; greed, jealousy, lust, etc. These sort of expressions are not very good at being concealed and will be revealed if sought out.

Progress by Default

No person can learn, if they do not see themselves as equal with their teacher. Of course, you may not be equal in knowledge or experience; but you surely have other gifts. This belief, this knowledge allows the student to comprehend what the teacher teaches and thus develop it further; by not being restricted by habit or rigid belief [which may be suffered by the teacher]. It takes a lot of internal change to accept that which is different, but being too open minded can also result in catastrophe.

You can allow yourself to be persuaded by others in order to feel as though you belong. Your morals will suffer for your ego. You should be certain of this: you were made unique to allow yourself a different experience, and for your future to be bountiful. This is how the student becomes the master [I know very corny and feeble] by taking the knowledge from several sources and varying application by experience.

This is how we form wisdom. Understand the knowledge and how it applies, then utilise it in the best way for the situation at hand. No one deserves the 'honour' of being called stupid by your mouth. For there is always someone smarter...always. Your pitiful measurements of intelligence and negligible next to the infinite in which we live each moment.

Why!

There has always been one question I have asked myself in ever situation...why?
Not "why did that happen?" or "why is life not fair?" those are small questions for the children among us. I ask myself, why are you feeling this way?" or "why are you not standing up and doing something?". Usually that gets my mind pointed in the 'right' direction again. (Whichever way the right way is - varied by experience)

I say usually because there are times when you can't ask why straight away. In a way you sort of need to lay down the concrete facts, before you begin the construction of working out where to go. So what concrete do I use? The truths, that are these: I have a family that loves me, I have a home, I am well, I have great friends, I can eat each day, I am secure, I am free. I understand that some of these cannot be said by all people, but that does not matter. Coming at a situation from a point of security will ultimately lead you to success, along with time and preparation, nothing is more important.

Support of friends and family can be a big help when confronting the giant at hand. You have to get used to sharing your fears, your problems with them though. They cannot help you, if you don't give them the right information. Yes it may be hard, it may be humbling and embarrassing, but surely they will see you as a bigger person because you were willing to ask for help rather than go it alone.

Show Them You Care

I know that if I just randomly dropped out of contact with everyone I know I would get a fair few question thrown at me. Worried people may just text or call me, but those who truly cared would come round to my house and ask me face to face what is happening.

Given that, why do we accept it as part of everyday life when people just stop coming to groups/meeting or social events? Surely it is the same thing?

Does compassion go beyond the physical? Or is it just being stuck in an emotional state? I think it has a lot more to do with the soul. Yeah that old thing, threaded into your body. It is having the mindset to care about others - even those that may not care about you - and how you can help them achieve a fuller, more beautiful life. Even when you are at a low point in your life. True compassion, grows from within, and is a pure gift from God. It is a keystone of Love, without it there is no care or support.

So what do we do when people just stop coming or stop caring? We set out to show them how much their friendship and contact mean to us and others; and we go to not take no for an answer. They must be shown that they are not alone, or that there is more to life than this, or that there is someone listening.

If you pause because you are thinking of consequences...don't! Just go, if you feel they need some help, then God will deal with the resolution, but it's up to you to start the action.

Apology

It is true what your parents have told you. Saying sorry is one of the hardest things to do. You may think it seems quite easy, it sounds quite easy, it has been easy. But that has only been in VERY small situations.

Saying sorry, when you want to mean it most, when you have been moved in your heart and you have found no other way to apologise, is almost impossible, but necessary and most definitely worth it in the end.

Why is it almost impossible? Because you know, you have done wrong. You know that you have upset the balance, you can feel it. And you understand that saying anything else may hurt the other party more. Something beyond human, is telling you that asking for forgiveness is a VITAL part of life. But you just want them to know you are sorry.

How can you be sure that apologising is the right thing? If you have created a wrong, then it has to be corrected...BY YOU! No other person can undo the damage you have done. It IS your responsibility, so that person can have a happier life.

Could it make things worse? I have considered this in my own situations. Too much time has passed, bringing it up may do more harm than good. But they need to know what you have been through. Maybe not the details, but certainly that you understand where you put them and how sorry you really are now.

are you going to let LIFE pass you by, without an apology? Life IS short, get over yourself, if your not saying sorry because of pride...it is not worth the PAIN! Drop the facade, become your own person and accept your mistakes and learn from them. At the very least, learn from your past. So that it can be avoided in the future. Not speaking to someone you care about has torn the world in two. There are too many lives lost to solitude and pain. Too many voices have faded into the darkness because of selfish actions from selfish people who don't know what harm a single word can do. So GO and make that phone call, GO and tell that person what a fool you have been, GO and show the people why you came back!

At the end of the day in our own little situations, there can never be enough advice; you can never be fully prepared. Just take a chance, it may save your life.

Where Will It End?

Is it funny that sometimes in life we seem to only complain about very trivial matters? It seems that the higher the degree of comfort we live in, the more we take for granted and as a result we moan about the smallest things. Of course we have to loose it ALL before we truly know what we had; freedom is only freedom, when you have been in slavery (of any form).
Is it right that we complain about the temperature of the shower, while other less fortunate people have to spend each day looking for enough food to survive? Even in this "More Economically Developed Country" there are people who can't afford to live.
The amazing part is; they know what they need to do so they don't complain or protest. Who would they talk to anyway? It's not like your going to listen to their small voices, while you turn up your ipod and rush off to some 'vital' meeting. You don't have time...YOU'RE BUSY! Yeah right! The world is busy, but charity still survives.
So far you have grown up in a world without a threat of death, where you can get whatever you want. It will all change soon.
Perhaps. perhaps there can be a difference if you change right now. It's not too late. Stop wasting money and time; live a simpler life and find fulfilment in what you do. Stand still, listen...that's the world calling. Can you here the voices that want to be heard?

Life in General and My Agenda

It has always seemed strange to me that people could be so trust less. That any action taken could be perceived in so many threatening ways. Perhaps it once again comes from my past [as does everything that has shaped me] being surrounded by people who (i thought) had secret agendas [but probably didn't, they were just thinking about number 1], I decided to create my own agenda. Must admit as I write this it still sounds a little strange, but for me it is less selfish and more for peoples benefits than most agendas. But i am still fractured.

Here is a question and more altogether the topic of my blog for today. Is it odd that i take the future for granted? Or in fact does everyone?

I'm sure there are people who don't. People who are living in fear of loosing their jobs, or having to move away or any number of life altering events, but I do take the future for granted. And at times it scares me. Some people are given the impression that i don't care about my life or what happens. That was once true but now is not. I was just never fully aware of my responsibilities, and now i hope i am more sensitive to the people and understanding what is needed.

I hope in the far future some people come back and read this and understand where I have come from. But what is the future but hopes and dreams dreamt while we are still sleeping? It is more than that. It is our lives. It is what will happen regardless of time, of money, of feelings. Life goes on and we cannot dream when there is a future to build. So where do we go? What do we do?

I like the film 'A Christmas Carol' But the message never really struck me until last year. Humanity is our business. And we must try as hard as we can to show the people out on the streets, to show the people who don't understand, to show anyone who needs love; that there is Love, and someone cares for them. I once said we can only truly develop by embracing our past. Now I realise that although that is good, we must also embrace our neighbours and our families to grow into this world.

Many people would say the future is what we make it, or what we make for ourselves...I'm not yet convinced on this, but if it is then let's try our best to make it a good future; for the world.

Steps on the Pyramid?

It is a rather odd thought to me, that my thoughts (go figure) would feel so much more ordered and understandable when i am the most tired.

Either you a trawling through the senseless ramblings of a tired 17 year old lad; or you are witnessing the well structured and proved prose of a keen young mind. But at times we are called to work with what we are given so...here we go.

Due to my young age, there are many things in life that i have not experienced; as of yet. One situation that has only recently reared it ugly head is, inequality. Sure we see it in films, on television; or hear of it in talk, but up until recently i have never been a victim of it.

On this count i would consider myself blessed, because inequality IS a horrible thing. As just mentioned I did experience it quite recently from someone who is equal to me, and being that I am still young, and forming of opinions and views are not yet set in stone, it shook me up a fair bit.

Now I really know what injustice feels like, and it's only from our own emotional experiences that we can create opinions and perspectives on situations in life. What then, am i going to do?

I am going to give this person and peoples the same respect i give to everyone else. I would consider us equals and try to help, as I have helped others. I would wish them, well and long lives, and show them that I care for their future. Even if they do not.

I'd hope any person reading this would be challenged and also give it a go. For it is not the depths of our wallets, nor the height of power of our acquaintances that make us friends of the people. It is the sacrifices and time, and equality shown to the people. That earns true respect, and that is hard to break.